Before there was you, you, and you, there was an “us,” and that us was Daddy and me.
And, before there was an us, there was just a “me”.
But, since you came along and your brother followed and your sister joined after him, I occasionally feel as though I have lost the “us” and “me” that once was.
I’m not telling you this to make you feel bad; nor am I telling you this to make you feel sad.
I am sharing these words with you because they are important words for you to hear. Together these words form a statement and a notion which I hope you remember when, one day, you find or feel that you have lost an “us” or a “me”.
Here is what I want you to understand about yourself, other people, and life:
There is always a “me”.
You are never lost.
You are always right where you are supposed to be.
There is a plan for every “me” in this world, and though it may not be known or understood by the individual, there is one.
And, when you become half of an “us,” and you believe that your “us” has disappeared — it hasn’t.
Your us is always there.
Your us is never lost.
Your us is where you both are meant to be.
Just like there is a plan for every me, there is a plan for every us.
And, if you remember that every moment of your life is a purposeful and integral part of your journey, and not a mindless, spontaneous happening, then you will be better prepared for the occasional misplacement or displacement of yourself or your relationship with your spouse.
You see, I don’t want you growing up believing that love — the kind parents have for their children or the kind that spouses have for one another — is a fairytale; it is not.
And for that reason, I don’t want you wishing for a myth, and I also don’t want you settling for one either.
Yes, I said not to settle for a fairytale, which may confuse you, but let explain what I mean.
My hope for you is that you accept that life is going to be full of ups and downs.
You will win some, and you will lose some.
You will be hired, and you will be fired.
You will be praised, and you will be criticized.
You will be complimented, and you will be berated.
You will be loved, and you will be hated.
You will make good choices, and you will falter.
You will be happy, and you will be sad.
But ALL of this and all of that; it all will make you stronger and help you to grow as a person.
So, yes —
Before there was you, and you, and you, there was an us, and before there was that us, there was that me, and I admit that, at times, I do feel that my me and my us is lost.
BUT then I remember everything I am telling you here, and I remind myself that my ME and my US are on a journey and that the only requirement of me is to accept this fact, enjoy the ride, and know that my journey is packed full of self-growth.
I hope you and your me remember to enjoy your ride.