Delightfully difficult, exhaustingly entertaining and chaotically charming — perfectly describes myself, my husband, my children and my life. I’d like to add that each of us are hilariously huggable too, so thats impressive. I find it interesting and funny how people, children and adults alike, can have dichotomies in their personality.
Back when I was in college working on my admission to law school, I wrote my entrance essay on the dichotomy between reason and passion. I discussed how reason and passion are not jointly exhaustive and mutually exclusive, but that conversely, they are very necessary for each other. In that essay, I put forth my opinion that thinking that logic and emotion can be separated is misguided thinking. I further advocated for the notion that these two are conjoined. The essay was written with my steadfast desire to exemplify that for a person to think logically, they have to possess the ability to handle the stress of the moment, by way of their passion for the end goal (or for the journey) and in the handling of said challenges, their logical thinking would help them solve the problem. Overall, my essay was about myself possessing both logic and passion and how that would make me a great law school candidate. I did end up getting into Saint Thomas University School of Law, where I attended for a semester. Laughably, I didn’t end up continuing with the pursuit of a Juris Doctorate degree and ceased my studies there in January of 2009.
Now that I am a wife and mother of three, there are numerous complex personalities to deal with; including my own. If you think about a family of five, each with their own extreme and divergent traits, that is a whole lot of personality complexities living under one roof. On any given day, I can be grumpy, yet kind; tired, but still focused; worried, but motivated. My husband can be frustrated, yet still funny; stressed, but calm; busy, but still present. And my children — well they can be ornery, yet hilarious; stubborn but willing, energetic, yet indifferent.
I am, and always have been, a person who likes the “black and white” of things. The “gray area” drives me crazy. I like to plan for things and I like things to stick to that plan. The funny thing about becoming a parent, is that it is super rare for anything to go according to plan. But, parenthood changes most of us; for the better.
As a woman, a wife, a mother, a friend, a daughter and a granddaughter, I feel that there are so many layers to my personality. Although some of these traits seem to be in conflict with one another, I am more than positive that the complexities that make me the person I am are working in conjunction with one another.
My acceptance of my own personal personality dichotomies, has lead me to be more tolerant of and even in awe of the dichotomies I perceive in others. I say this all to get across that it is okay to be delightfully difficult, exhaustingly entertaining, chaotically charmimg and hilariously huggable. It is more then okay for your life to be a beautiful mess of dichotomies and extremes– mine is, and I am extremely proud of that!