Did you feel the impact?
Although the image may have led you to believe that I got clocked in the face, I didn’t. Thank goodness, but I did feel the severe impact of something else recently, and I will tell you what it was.
First, let me share this…
So, I am only a few weeks into this whole not yelling thing, and IT IS WORKING! How amazing is that? Why didn’t I try this earlier? Oh yeah, I did, but I couldn’t stick to it. Now however I am actively, consciously, and very seriously trying to make this no more yelling thing my new way of parenting. Do you know who is happy about this? EVERYBODY. The whole family is slightly calmer; and just, well, content.
Yes, I know that my patience will likely be tested, and that is when we will really see if I can keep my cool, but at least I have a plan to try. That’s a start! So often, we as parents forget that the things which seem so big and frustrating are really so small and unworthy of such stress when you put them in perspective.
Okay, so back to the impact…
Recently, my husband and I met a woman who was out and about with her two children. In making small talk with her about her children, who were similar in age to my own, we came to find out that her husband has a terminal condition which has him confined to a wheelchair. And do you know what? This amazing, one-of-a-kind woman still had the strength to be smiling, laughing, and be silly with her children, all while befriending us. Makes you feel a little ridiculous — okay, really guilty — for pouting, whining, and complaining over your challenges and stresses which don’t even compare one little bit to what that couple and their children must be going through.
It is amazing how sometimes a stranger, who you only interact with for a brief moment, can have such a significant effect on you. I waste so much time on anxiety, worry, perceived stressors — you name it, I waste time on it; but not any longer. This woman has proven to me that I need to be a better person. This woman has shown me that there is one way to live life, and that is with optimism in your heart and your mind. This woman confirmed for me that my attempt to yell less and enjoy every bit of my crazy, yet beautiful life with the crazy, yet beautiful beings that complete it, is the smartest choice I have made in a very long time.
I thank you, stranger, for what you have done for my husband and I. I only wish I knew your name, so I could give you the recognition you truly deserve for the impact you made on us.