“Focus, Cupcake!” is something that I tell my children often. Why? Well, it is one of my children’s favorite lines from a movie called The Naughty List. Beginning around last Christmas we purchased and watched this DVD probably thirty times. The movie revolves around two brother elves who have a hard time following the rules and are prone to sneaking off for some fun, yet rebellious playtime. At one point in the show, one of the elves throws a wet napkin at his brother and says “Focus, Cupcake!” Well, my children laughed their butts off at this and guess what? They still do. Yep, even after having seen that part of the movie a ridiculous amount of times, it continues to provoke excessive laughter.
So, this got me thinking. What made this so joy-infusing for them? What was the ultimate hilarity with this, and is there a way for me to harness it and turn it into something teachable? Well, in our house when we are on the brink of a tantrum or amid a sassy-pants moment, I remind the children to “Focus, Cupcake!” as it often aids in helping them reset.
Having a “reset button” or reset method for yourself, your children, and even you and your husband is always a good idea. You know what else is a good idea? Focusing. Yep, focus is something that my children lack at times, and heck, I can’t blame them — I can lack it too. But, somehow and someway, someone in my family yelling “Focus, Cupcake!” can get the rest of us to reset and direct our attention to what or to where it is needed.
Listen, it doesn’t have to be this phrase, and it surely doesn’t have to be a phrase from a super silly movie about two rambunctious elves. Still, each and every family should have a word, sentence, or way to cue other family members to the fact that focus is needed somewhere and by someone.
Additionally, parents should always be looking for better ways to understand, connect with, and grow with our children. And a simple, effective, age-appropriate way to do this is to observe what brings your child pleasure, and find a way to teach a lesson from that exact place of their enjoyment or interest. This goes for us adults as well.
Now go “Focus, Cupcake!”, and do whatever it is that you have planned for your day, and if by chance at some point you need a reset, be sure to take one.
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