If your kids are anything like mine, milk is their drink of choice. My son will guzzle it down like a college boy guzzles beer. Honestly, you would think that milk tastes like chocolate the way that my children long for it. Me? Do I like milk? Only if it’s super cold and primed for Chips Ahoy cookie dipping.
But as parents, there is a different and more important way for us to collaborate with milk, and it sure isn’t by drinking it. I want you to stop drinking your milk and instead, I want you to milk things. Milk things, what? Yes. According to The Online Slang Dictionary, “to milk” something means to “take advantage of the positive.”
Too often in life, especially as parents, we focus on the negative and we let that negative affect our attitude, behavior, and choices — which sadly, typically ends up affecting how we treat and respond to our kids.
My suggestion to you and to myself, is that we make it a point to “milk” more of the positive that we can and should find in every day.
So, what kind of things should you milk?
* Milk those few moments in your child’s bed when they refuse to wake up. Lay with them and give them soft kisses. Stroke their hair and sing to them. Cuddle and snuggle with them for as long as they will let you, because it won’t be long before they don’t want mommy to do it any longer.
*Milk the opportunity to sit down and have breakfast with your child. I totally understand that in the chaos of the morning rush, sometimes the last thing you want to do is stop moving to sit with your slow-eating, chatty child; but you should do it. You need to do it. You must take advantage of every opportunity to sit down with your child for a meal and have a conversation.
* Milk every opportunity to be a part of your child’s school day, when possible and allowed. Volunteer often. Can’t volunteer? Then find another way to be a part of your child’s education. At the end of every day, ask your child questions about their day, their friends, what they are learning. And, don’t just ask to receive an arbitrary answer. Make sure that you are asking good thoughtful questions, and that you are actively listening and following up their answers with secondary questions.
* Milk every chance you get to watch your child partake in any extracurricular activities (sports, drama, music, languages, etc.). It is so important that our children are not only given the opportunity to partake in an extracurricular that they enjoy, but also that they know we are supportive of their participation. It’s also beneficial for them to know and ultimately feel that we are proud of them, their motivation, and hard work.
* Milk every opportunity to model for your child how to behave. This includes how to be a respectful human being toward others. Additionally, it is imperative that you and your spouse are exemplifying for your child(ren) what a healthy and positive relationship looks and feels like.
There are so many more parts of parenthood that should be milked, but since we all know that too much milk, too fast, and in one sitting isn’t good for anyone, I will conclude my list here. But, what we have successfully established is a start. The things worth “milking” in parenthood can vary amongst families, but the fact remains that milk, well, it really does do a body good — and parent-child relationship.
What do you choose to “milk” each day? We’d love to know why.
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