It was the week of my 32nd birthday, and I took myself to a local nail salon to indulge in some self-pampering by way of a mani and pedi.
Next to me was an older woman, maybe in her sixties, treating herself to the same while her husband perused the local shops nearby. Twice he came in to check on her and to see how much longer she would be. He wasn’t frustrated, just curious, and she wasn’t rude, she just wasn’t going to rush.
After the second time he visited and walked back out of the shop, she looked at her pedicurist who had seemingly started to rush a bit and said:
“He can wait.”
“He can wait.”
At first, those three little words made me think, “hmm…is she a bit selfish?” But, then I quickly realized that she is right, he can wait, because she is doing something for her that brings her pleasure and isn’t that what life is all about?
But life is also about people and about those we love, and that is a notion that her husband seemingly naturally adheres to — waiting for his wife because she was engaged in something that she enjoyed and most likely, needed.
In all relationships, marriages, those with our children, or those with friends or co-workers, there has to be a balance between individuals which benefit both parties.
So here is what I suggest:
Take your time getting ready for that date — he will wait.
Slow down your driving, he wants you all to arrive safely and because of that — he will wait.
Take your time with your thoughts and carefully choose your words — he will wait with listening ears to hear everything you have to say because you are his world.
Take your time at work and don’t rush home unless you have to. He understands and admires your dedication to your job and that you’re providing for the family, which means — he will wait.
Take your time with your children and turn challenging moments into learning opportunities. Time without you will only make the time with you all that much sweeter and because of this — he will wait.
But, I also want you to remember that you can and should wait for him, too.
You see, our spouses deserve the same courteous they give to us.
So, wait for him when he is lollygagging; there is no need to rush life or the moments that make it up, and this is a notion that he has already intelligently accepted. It’s your turn to do the same.
Wait for him to tell you he loves you instead of pushing or forcing it. When he utters those three words, on his own time, unprovoked, you will experience a feeling surely worth waiting for.
Wait for him to eat dinner when he is running late from work. He is busting his butt to co-provide for the family you both have created.
We must wait for those we love, and we must do so without disdain towards them and the delay they are causing. Instead of hating having to wait, take those seconds, minutes, or hours thanking the powers that be that you are blessed enough to have someone in your life worth waiting for, and who will also wait for you.