Do you ever feel like “real” and “meaningful” life is passing you by while you sit there, hand glued to wheel, racing towards some fictional or unimportant deadline? Do you ever feel like your are moving on overdrive while everyone else around you seems to be at peace, riding on cruise control? The truth is, you have the power to slow down. You should slow down. And so should I.
I’ve been like this, my whole life. By “this,” I mean running around like Speedy Gonzales. I have never enjoyed sitting still. Idleness for me is frightening. I have always been the kind of person that desires to be busy. My family used to call me “motor-mouth” because when I felt passionate about something, I wouldn’t let anyone else get a word in. Heck, my husband still calls me that if I try to monopolize the “verbal floor” during a disagreement. Point being, whether it is my mouth, my body, or my mind, I am always busy.
Despite the negative viewpoint others had (and may still have) of my fast-paced attitude towards life, for me being busy has always made me happy. Or has it?
I guess that is where I am in a place of uncertainty. With some introspection and analysis, I have come to the conclusion that there is a barrenness that accompanies a busy life, but, at the same time, productiveness. I think the key to this whole idea of being and staying busy, but at the same time, remaining happy, is balance. And, it is possible to achieve balance in your daily life.
For those that desire not to alter their busy lifestyle, but who still want to achieve some serenity, in addition to remaining happy and productive, here are some tips:
— Stop trying to look busy, unless you actually are busy. Ensure that your being busy is the means to reach a sought after goal, not just a facade.
–Make sure that your “mission” for the day is productive. If you are going to rush around, do so because positive effects are occurring as a result.
— Be more flexible. Understand that it is okay to be busy, but that you need to also be flexible on the path to your goal; be it long-term or short-term.
— Don’t be cocky about your busy lifestyle. To be honest, most people probably do not envy it–they may even pity you for it.
–On occasion, doubt yourself. I do believe that the most productive and successful people leave room for self-doubt, as doubt is capable of, and likely to, increasing productivity. Doubt, on occasion, can and will lead to better performance and ultimately better outcomes.
— Prioritize. Busy people have so much stuff to do. Find balance by organizing your “to-do” list and allocating a day and time to each item.
Listen. I know that slowing down when you are a “go, go, go” person is hard. The mere idea of trying to slow down makes me anxious. I know that even though I am preaching the almighty idea of “balance” here, I am probably not actually going to change my own busy lifestyle too much.
A busy-bee is who I am–it is who I have always been and who I will continue to be. I will never be a woman that is capable of meditation or relaxation via yoga and I will never stand in front of a mirror reciting positive affirmations to calm my mind. That is not me and it may not be you either.
What I do vow to do is to merely slow down some. Calm down some. Worry less. Rush less. Laugh more. Be more grateful. Let things (and people) grow. Be less serious. Focus and pay attention. And that I think you are capable of too.
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein