One thing that has been consistent for me since my adolescence is the fact that I LOVE to torture my hair. Well, you all would call it torture and my hair dresser probably would too, but I wouldn’t. I would call it…experiementing or playing.
What are we talking about here? I love to color my hair, I love to cut it and I love to add extensions to it. The fact is that I love to change it — often. But, I don’t think my constant desire to “change it up” is truly about my hair. I mean, maybe? Maybe in another life I was an extremely talented and popular hair artist, but in this life, I’m just me — a thirty-one year old mom of three young kids.
Ever since I was young, I have always been a little “different,” for lack of a better term. I was never so far out of the box, but I was a little eccentric. Heck, I still am. Not in my mannerisms, those have been, and remain to be, very proper and aligned with “normal” etiquette, but in my style choices, makeup and hair preferences, I have always been unique. Again, I call it unique, but I am pretty sure that my husband and brother would call it quirky, right guys?
My constant chameleon-like behavior with regard to my appearance continued through adolescence and college. It has only recently lessened, as there is just honestly not a lot of time for it these days. It is kind of hard to color your hair with a baby in your arms or strategically place in your hair extensions with a toddler pulling on your arm. I do miss it though. I do miss having more fun with my appearance.
So, why is it that I have always enjoyed making changes to my look? Why do I like have a bleach blonde asymmetrical pixie cut one day and a long, brunette, bouffant pony the next? Because I think that change is important to my self-discovery and overall happiness and I think the same is true for anyone who, like me, has fun with change.
In my opinion, change is a form of self-acceptance; we are telling ourselves, and the world, that we love ourselves; each part of us and each of the many facets of our personality.
So why do I enjoy change, especially changes to my appearance? Here’s why:
— Because it is exhilarating and fun.
— Because it is draws people to me and I enjoy that human connection.
— Because it is therapeutic.
— Because I won’t know if I truly like the change, until I try it.
And why do am I comfortable and proud of modeling this kind of periodic change to/for my children?
— Because it teaches them that change is capable of encouraging personal growth, such as self-awareness and self-confidence.
— Because it exemplifies to them that change is an easy way to fix something that you don’t like.
— Because it shows them that change has the ability to build courage.
— Because they will see that changing your look can have the affect of changing your attitude and let’s face it, sometimes we all need an attitude adjustment.
Listen, I admit it. Why I probably change my look up so much is that being stagnant bores me and kind of frightens me. Additionally, I think that in most facets of my life — like my marriage, my parenting, my need to be on a schedule — I am pretty rigid and inflexible and aligned with the norms. Yet, I have found this little sweet spot, of one area of my life, my appearance, where I don’t feel like its wrong or bad or scary to not conform to the norm, and I am relishing in that.
So which look do you all like best? Which look is me now? Hmm…
Wow your hairstyle choices are really random 🙂 That’s okay I guess. I would like to dye my hair with unicorn colors but I’m afraid it wouldn’t turn out well!
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Hi! Thanks for the comment! Yes, they are quite random, but fun! Oh, the unicorn colors hidden underneath are super cute! I’m sure if you found the right stylist would turn out great! Thanks for commenting! 🙂
You are beautiful. I was in a wedding yesterday, so I just went blonde. But I am dying to try pink or blue.
Wow! How kind of you to say something like that! Thank u so much! So sweet! I have a pink hair extension in now for a little bit of fun and funk but I’ve never done it all over. My hair stylist has pink hair though and it looks amazing! I bet would look awesome on you! 🙂
I love changing my hair ALL the time. I am currently brown with caramel highlights. I recently had oil slick and it was amazing!
Woohoo! Another hair color lover! Thank you for commenting. I didn’t know what oil slick was, so I just looked it up. So cool! That is awesome! I bet it looked great! 🙂