You know that mom that still looks like a Victoria Secret model even with her hair in a messy pony? I know you know her. She has a great body, gorgeous skin and looks killer in her LuLuLemon yoga pants on which her child never wipes his hands or boogers? You’ve seen her around…you must have. She is the one that does yoga every morning because it “balances” her and she always looks so relaxed and calm and puts forth a “chill” vibe.
Yep…as you may have suspected, I am not her. But, let’s be clear here, that I am also not judging her. I am merely stating that I am her opposite. I have a grown-out pixie cut and my body is a work in progress. And, my skin, well it hasn’t been the same since I had kids. As for workout pants, mine are from Walmart and my children most certainly wipe their snotty noses all over them.
So, what’s my opinion on yoga? Well, I think its for the birds. But do you know why I feel that way? Because, admittedly, I can’t do yoga, and thats not yoga’s fault, it is mine.
Recently, my family at I were at a local park and to our surprise, “Yoga in the Park” was going on. There must have been upwards of 200 people dong yoga, for all to see. While a small part of me thought this looked cool and fun, I remembered that I am not a “yogi”.
What is a yogi, you ask? You know, Yogi’s are those people that do yoga regularly and also seem so focused, calm, centered, and enthusiastic. Everyday they take a journey of self and seem to be so at peace with their life, their job, their body, their children, etc.
As an anxious and Type A mother of three kids, all under the age of five, you know I could use some tranquility and sense of calm. However, my personality just does not allow for yoga to be my method for achieving such. The times that I have attempted yoga, I have been completely unable to lose myself in it. I can be in tree pose and still be wondering about if I shaved my legs and if my child is having a good day. Unfortunately, I am just completely unable to ever tune-out from outward life and venture inward.
So…what is a mother that hates yoga to do to find her daily sense of calm? Here are some ideas:
— Prepare for the morning rush, the night before. Have your children’s lunches made and their clothes laid out already. I usually decide on my outfit the night before as well, so that I am not wasting time on that in the morning.
— Wake up early. When possible, wake up before your husband and children. Enjoy a hot cup of coffee or tea, by yourself.
— Do some work before they wake up. Whether it is folding the laundry, writing things down in your planner, loading or unloading the dishes or working on your computer. Take care of one of your tasks before the house erupts with family chaos.
— Have a plan for the day, but be flexible.
— Spend that $4.50 to get yourself your Starbucks pleasure. Just do it Momma, you’ve earned it.
— Be in the fresh air. Whether you go for a walk or just sit outside for five minutes, try to take in the sights and sounds of nature.
— Listen to music that makes you feel good. Even if only for one song, listen to a song that makes you happy.
— Fill a stranger’s bucket. Be it holding a door open, sending a return smile, saying thank you — it feels so good to be a good person.
— Give in to one of your child’s requests, barring the fact that he/she is not whining for it. There are so many days that I would rather be working on my writing then taking my son to the park, but I am so grateful when I do take him, as knowing that I fulfill his needs brings me so much more peace than being selfish.
— Eat well. So simple and a well-known tip, but when we eat better, we feel better.
— Take breaks when you need them. It is totally okay to take a ten minute break so that you can rejuvenate yourself.
— Let the kids help out more. If you are stressed because you have so much on plate, let the children help tackle those chores with you. Teach them how they can appropriately aid in the tasks (i.e. putting dishes away, wiping table down, putting laundry away).
— Shower at night, even if you showered that morning. If you have the time, there is nothing more relaxing then hot water beating on your back. Light a candle and/or play yourself some music.
— Dabble with essential oils. I don’t use them regularly, but I did try some samples sent to me and if nothing else, the placebo effect of thinking I was more relaxed because of them, relaxed me.
— At the end of the night, engage in at least one meaningful conversation with your partner.
— Read a non-fiction book and let it transport you elsewhere.
— Watch a guilty pleasure tv show or peruse social media
So there you go — just some tips on finding some inner balance when you are a mother who hates yoga.