Smothered. It is how we like our burgers, our baked potatoes and sometimes, our ice cream. It is not something that people like to be.
No one wants to be smothered; not literally (of course), but surely not figuratively as well. No one wants you to be all up in their business and on top of them (yes, I see the pun), at every moment of the day. Your husband does not enjoy being smothered and neither do your children. So…why do we do it?
As mothers, the love we have for our family is immeasurable; it is like nothing else in this world. There is no comparison that can be made to the love a woman has for her children. But can we love too much and too hard? The answer is, yes and no.
You can love your family hard–I am all for that. Heck, I definitely do. But, when we smother them, that is us being selfish and that is not about our love for them. When we smother our husband by clinging to him, we are prioritizing our own desire for a connection and not taking into consideration what he may want or need from us at that time. When we smother our children by bombarding them with questions/advice, impressing our opinions on them and helicoptering around them, we are putting a negative strain on our relationship with them.
It is great for the love you have for your family to be passionate and unconditional, but there is a difference between loving them and overwhelming them to the point of discomfort.
It’s a fine line to walk and a struggle to maintain that balance, especially when you are an intense and zealous person to begin with. However, doing so is crucial, as it will ensure that you do not inadvertently and consistently irritate the ones you love.
So, just some food for thought…
Mmmmm…food…who else is hungry for something smothered?