No one (and nothing) can ruin my day.
Nope; not even a lackadaisical spouse, misbehaving, non-listening children, or a slice of burnt toast.
Are you aghast that I even said that? How dare I infer that our loved ones could ruin our day? I sure sound like a spiteful witch, don’t I? These are the people I love, so why am I talking about them in such an unpleasant, underappreciated way?
You see, thanks to Allen Klein, author of You Can’t Ruin My Day: 52 Wake-Up Calls to Turn Any Situation Around, I am contending that the only individual that can ruin my day is ME.
Talk about a wake-up call; that is precisely what this book is — one giant wake-up call that is made up of fifty-two other wake-up calls. This book is your answer to the ever-present question of how to deal with the stress of everyday life.
You know how our kids get booster shots? Well, neonatologists and pediatricians describe them as a “‘reminder’ to your baby’s immune system.” Allen’s wake-up calls are essential “reminders” to an adult’s state of balance.
Balance, that typically unachievable state of peace and contentedness, is within your grasp, but Allen maintains that to achieve such, you must approach life and learning with humor and lightheartedness.
Seems simple enough, right? WRONG. For most of us, despite our plan to tackle life’s challenges with a smile and a laugh, we, more often than not, find ourselves grimacing and grumbling.
In his easy-to-read, eye-opening book, Allen provides us with realistic (that’s the key) actionable steps for staying positive. He suggests that we use make-believe, story-editing, presumptions, channel-changing, sidelining, neutrality, focus-changing, big-picture consideration, resistance-avoidance, and humor to keep our day, mindset, attitude, and behavior on track toward having a happy, or at minimum, a tolerable day.
Allen also discusses the importance of forgiveness, and he describes it as an affirmation on our part to let go of anything that is ruining our day. He further contends that we ponder this: If our life were to come to an end tomorrow, what would be our regrets? Well, for me, my regrets would include:
I wish I didn’t spend so much time on my phone.
I wish I always looked and listened to my kids when they were speaking to me.
I wish I yelled less.
I wish I told my husband “I love you” more.
I wish I spoke to my grandparents more often.
Then Allen tells you to recognize the fact that you can do all of this stuff, at present, so that you do not have these regrets.
Overall, Allen’s book is genius. He has such a unique way of helping explain to people how to embrace the imperfection of life (and their own imperfections) by way of real-life examples. Allen’s advice is nothing that you don’t already know you should be doing, but he will convince you how important it is that you implement these self-improvements and he will show you exactly how to make these changes work for you on the day-to-day.
Another book by Allen Klein, Secrets Kids KNOW that Adults Oughta Learn, is all about how to enrich your life by viewing it through the eyes of a child.
I just completed and published an article on this, about how acting like your child can bring you balance, and Allen’s book completely reinforces the same sentiment.
As we age, we, unfortunately, lose a lot and I am not just talking about our gorgeous figures or our thick, healthy, youthful hair. We are talking about the fact that time and age seem to take away our optimism, humor, hope, and so much more. But, it doesn’t have to, and if you decide to stay young at heart and mind, then a child-like perspective on life will enable you to make it that much more pleasurable.
What are the secrets kids know?
To seek amazement.
To be a novice.
To be bold.
To be creative.
To be curious.
To find fun.
To be joyful.
To be kind.
To take breaks.
To be optimistic.
To be playful.
To be present.
To take risks.
To be honest.
To be smart.
Yes! This sure sounds to me like exactly the person I want to be, and it’s the same kind of person I likely was when I was younger, as youthfulness lends itself towards the innate instinct to be all of these things.
Listen, I love self-help books. I love any book that gives me some clear and practical ways to be happier and generate more happiness within my household and amongst the people I love and care for.
Grab yourself a copy of Allen Klein’s You Can’t Ruin My Day: 52 Wake-Up Calls to Turn Any Situation Around and of Secrets Kids KNOW that Adults Oughta Learn, and you will find yourself with newfound awareness that your life can be more pleasurable if you put the effort in and make the conscious choice to curate and monopolize the heck out of your own joy.
And, as if you need YET another reason to check out Allen’s work, he is set to receive the New Book of the Year Award at the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor conference, in April, for Secrets Kids KNOW that Adults Oughta Learn.
Pretty impressive, Mr. Klein.
ALLEN KLEIN, MA, CSP
Comedian Jerry Lewis has said that Allen Klein is “a noble and vital force watching over the human condition.”
Klein is an award-winning speaker who shows audiences worldwide how to use humor and positive thinking to deal with life’s not-so-funny stuff. (www.allenklein.com)
He is a recipient of a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor, holds a Certified Speaking Professional designation from the National Speakers Association, and has earned a Toastmaster’s Communication and Leadership Award, and is also a best-selling author of 26 books.
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