I have a great life. It’s a life that I know I am truly blessed to have. I have a loving husband and three wonderful, stellar children who love me to pieces. We have a comfortable home inside of which our two fur-babies reside and give us unconditional love. What more could a woman want? What more could a mother want? The truth is, well, she could want more.
Now, I know it probably sounds greedy to want “more” from this amazing life that I am truly lucky to have, but it’s the raw honest truth. There came a time, not too long ago, where I just knew I wanted to do and be something more than wife and mommy. I wanted to do something for me; something that made me feel good about myself and made me feel like I was contributing to this world and the people in it on a larger scale.
The thing was, I didn’t know how to do that. I didn’t know what I wanted to do and I sure didn’t know what would fulfill me. And then I found it — the thing that I never knew I always wanted; something that had been missing, something that was going to open up my eyes to a whole new world of possibilities, while at the same time creating harmony for myself.
Do you know what I am talking about yet? No? Okay, I’ll let you in on it…it’s writing.
If you want that something more for yourself, Abbi Perets can help you get there. Her awesome course on becoming a freelance writer is amazing. Below Abbi tells her story of how writing has impacted her life and how she can help it to positively impact yours.
Nearly 14 years ago, my third baby was born, and things got a little crazy.
Within an hour of his birth, my kid was in the NICU, where he stayed for 11 days. Everyone knew something was wrong, but no one knew exactly what was wrong. That went on for two years, when we finally found out that our son has a syndrome, Sotos, which results in physical overgrowth and developmental disabilities.
The day we got that diagnosis, I came home from the neurologist’s office and started a blog.
For the next seven or so years, I blogged almost every single day. I poured my heart out to the internet, and it helped.
I’ve always been a writer. I spent my childhood writing short stories which invariably ended in tragedy — a child would survive a deadly disease and then fall down the stairs and die, for example — and a lot of dark poetry.
In my early twenties, I thought I would write the great American novel. I have about 973 files on my computer titled Novel, Awesome Novel, Amazing Novel, and so on. Most of them end around chapter 4.
I have many, many journals from my teen years. I should probably burn them in case I die in a freak chocolate-eating accident, but for now, those journals are shoved into the empty spaces in my closet.
Once I became a mom, the need to write was more urgent. Writing helped me re-connect with the part of me that didn’t belong to my husband or my children. Writing was for me.
Writing has also been the way I’ve made a living for the last twenty years — mostly as a freelance writer. It might seem strange that the thing I do “for me” is also the thing I do for money, but it works. When you’re a writer, you’re a writer, and that’s just how it is.
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I’ve built a freelance writing career while having, nursing, and raising five children — including the one with special needs. Who also had a small case of cancer, but he beat that, because he is awesome.
Writing Can Bring Balance to Your Life
My point is, if you are feeling like you have lost the essential part of YOU that is not MOMMMMMMMMMYYYYYYYYYY, the part of you that is skilled in things other than removing all traces of disgusting carrot from chicken or finding the Dora the Explorer bandages, because the Bob the Builder ones are NOT GOOD and WILL NOT STOP THE BLEEDING, then writing might be an outlet for you, too.
And even if you have more than five children, you can find time to write, and ways to make money from that writing.
When you want to find time to write, you can focus on two things:
- Track your time for a full week to figure out exactly what you’re doing, which is often significantly different from what you think you are doing.
7 Lies we tell ourselves about time.
At one point in my adult life, I thought I was spending 20 hours a week on cooking and cleaning, and I had the brilliant idea to start ordering in food and sending out the laundry. This would have cost me money that I didn’t really have, but I thought that I would essentially be buying time.
Fortunately, I started tracking my time, and I figured out that I was actually spending my time running errands all over town and — this is embarrassing, but I cannot tell a lie — playing Words With Friends on my phone.
I made minor tweaks to my life — writing down the errands when I thought of them and doing them once a week, and removing the offending game from my phone — and gained back close to 15 hours in my week.
By the way, during the same period, I was spending perhaps 7 hours a week on the cooking and cleaning, so making changes to those areas wouldn’t have helped anyway.
- Set up habits to help you write more frequently.
Tiny Habits: The secret to your success.
I like to use a system of tiny habits to help me incorporate behaviors that I want to encourage in my life. Basically, I pick something that I know I already do every single day — for example, drinking coffee — and make that thing my anchor.
I attach the new behavior, the one I want to do, to the anchor. So, when I drink a cup of coffee, I want that to trigger writing. Here’s the thing, though: the system is called tiny habits, so you can’t say something like, “I’ll drink coffee and then write a chapter in my novel.”
Instead, I started by saying, “After I drink my coffee, I’ll set out my notebook.” That’s tiny, and it’s something I can do, even when I’m feeling overwhelmed.
When you’re at home with young kids, it’s best to find several anchors throughout the day, at different times of day, because life with children can be… unpredictable.
By creating multiple opportunities for writing, you’re more likely to actually find one of those opportunities that works with your day.
Making Money from Writing
If your goal is to make money from your writing, that’s totally possible — even if you’ve never written professionally before in your life.
The first time I got hired as a writer, I had exactly two qualifications:
- I spoke English.
- I knew how to use a computer.
So if you have those two things going for you, you’ll be fine.
Getting paid for writing boils down to two basic steps.
- Decide what you want to write about.
- Find people who need that stuff.
This may be a slight oversimplification of the process, so let’s take a closer look.
Decide What You Want to Write About
If you want to get paid for writing, you need to figure out exactly what kind of writing you’re hoping to do — and you should NOT choose “write novels.” (It’s really, really hard to make a living writing fiction.)
Choose a niche.
You might decide that you want to write articles about breastfeeding and baby wearing, or you want to write about wearable technology or you want to write press releases for real estate agents marketing open houses.
You have to pick an area so that you can focus on creating value for potential clients.
If you just think, “I want to get paid to write,” you’re going to have a hard time breaking that down into things you can actually, you know, DO.
When I first started out as a freelance writer, I didn’t realize that by not choosing one area to focus on, I was setting myself up for a lot of problems.
My instinct was to say YES! to everyone. I wrote press releases about semiconductors, articles about breastfeeding, and courses about the laws concerning insider trading.
Doing all of those different things meant that I was constantly learning new things. I was always a beginner.
Find People Who Need What You Write
It took me several years to realize that by always having a learning curve, I was significantly limiting my income. When I finally figured that out and started specializing in one type of writing, I started making real money — $40,000 to $60,000 a year, working part time hours from home.
Choose your path.
Because I spent a lot of time making a lot of mistakes, I’m not surprised when I hear about other people making those same mistakes.
There’s a lot that goes into building a successful freelance writing business from scratch, and unfortunately, a lot of people don’t succeed.
A lot of people get stuck in those early mistakes and never get their business off the ground.
It’s easy to understand why that happens — but it doesn’t have to happen to you.
You really can build a successful freelance writing business. You really can start earning $2000/month in just a few months — and scale your business to $40,000 or even $60,000/year while working 6 hours a day.
Yes, really. There’s a step-by-step process that can take you from here to there, and you can do it.
You want to be debt-free and live on your own terms?
You want to be in control of your income and not let someone else determine your earning potential?
You want to be at home with your kids and earn a real living?
You can do that.
My signature course, Writing for Money, has already helped people just like you start their own successful freelance writing businesses and earn real money.
Right now, you have two options if you want to get started in freelance writing:
Option #1: Keep dreaming about what you want to do. Read blog posts and books, and sort through the conflicting advice you find. Go for it! Heck I did it — and it only took me 9 or 10 years to start earning consistently.
Option #2: Enroll in Writing for Money and let me help you start your freelance writing business the right way, so that you can earn money consistently.
Take your first step toward Writing for money today.
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