The story of how my husband and I met is a cute one, so I will give you the brief gist of it. My mom and I used to have regular (weekly, sometimes twice weekly), mother-daughter mall trips. During each shopping excursion, we would grab a bite to eat at the same restaurant where the food was delicious and we were served by a very handsome guy. Our server, my eventual husband, would always have our drinks ready for us at our table before we sat down. He served with a smile, cracked jokes, and yes flirted with me as much as my mom would let him get away with. Eventually, I returned to that restaurant over a Christmas break from college and I got a hostess job there for the few months that I would be home. My husband tells me that the day he saw me on my first day of work there, he told the restaurant manager, “I am going to marry her one day”, and he did. (swoon)
If you ask my husband what he first noticed about me back in 2006, he would probably say my short skirt. Actually, I know that is what he would say because I actually asked him this when I interviewed him for a post titled 20 Questions To Ask Your Spouse Tonight.
I surely don’t wear short skirts anymore because spider veins and cellulite aren’t all that attractive; and sometimes I feel like neither is the rest of my post-three baby body, but heck, what can you do. My hair isn’t as long, blonde, and playful as it once was; and I now more resemble a porcelain doll than a tanned, “just came from the beach” Barbie doll. Oh yea, and my hoo-ha’s, well those aren’t as cheerful as they once were either.
But, guess what? All of a sudden, today, I had an epiphany. I am hotter right now, at this point in my life, than any time before. How is that possible you ask? Well, because I am hotter right now on the inside than I ever have been (no pun intended!)
When I was young I could be selfish, self-involved, and immature; and now I have grown into a more selfless, compassionate, and mature adult, woman, and mother. I believe I am a great wife, a loving mom, a caring daughter-in-law and sister-in-law, a supportive sibling and a fun friend. There is so much more about the me now, that I think makes me more beautiful, attractive, and intriguing than any outer beauty ever did or could.
Do you sometimes give yourself a hard time for not looking as “hot” as you used to? Well, it is time that you cut that out and realize that YOU, at your current stage of life, are the hottest that you have ever been.
Recognize that, believe it, and remind yourself often!
And, on days that you find it hard to see past your self-perceived flaws in the mirror, let me be your mirror and remind you of this:
Your perpetual kindness towards your children and family makes you hot.
Your raw genuineness towards all people that you encounter makes you hot.
Your constant generosity, with your money and/or your time, makes you hot.
Your unwavering drive to succeed in business and/or in parenthood makes you hot.
Your unconditional passion for raising confident yet humble, more than decent human beings makes you hot.
Your intelligence and continued curiosity makes you hot.
Your often-humorous naivety and optimism regarding the world around you makes you hot.
Your endearing forgetfulness based on pure exhaustion from you giving your all, day in and day out, well, that makes you hot.
And that’s not all. What else makes you HOT?
Your uncanny ability to find the silver lining hidden beneath everything, including that post-children body and tired eyes of yours.
You look hot with your messy bun, your spilled-on shirt, and your half-painted toe nails.
You are hot because you are a mom and nothing is hotter than that.