The Family Fuse-Lighter. Every family has one, and some families have more than one. Often times, it’s the dads who find it hilarious to seek out and relentlessly push the buttons of all other family members. However, in other family dynamics momma can be just as responsible, if not more, for igniting some family drama. In some families, where both parents are more even-keel and prudent natured, it is a single child or possibly multiple children that regularly carry around a match and set that sh*t on fire any chance they get.
The question begs to be asked, right?
Here’s 4 reasons why I actually believe that there should and needs to be at least one Family Fuse-Lighter in every family.
- They keep life interesting. Good interesting or bad interesting that is surely the question, but at least life with them ain’t boring!
- They keep life challenging. And, we all could use a good challenge every now and then. Okay, well, regular fuse-lighters definitely provoke you more often than periodically, but still, them doing so only serves to better you as a person — to make you more open-minded, to make you more flexible and adaptable, and to make you stronger.
- They require you to find and exercise resilience. Because it is a fact that button-pushers drive you mad, and allowing yourself to be driven to the looney bin each and every day will most definitely secure you a regular stay there. When you are living with someone who likes to provoke conflict and bring on less than favorable situations, you are driven to make the conscious decision to find the humor and the positive in it all, and what a great life skill that is.
- They make you laugh (most of the time at least). And, when you are not laughing you are probably crying. But still I would contend that whoever the culprit may be, they are helping you to be more in touch with your emotions. In my opinion, it’s much better to have people in our lives that cause us to feel, and to feel a lot (positive or negative) than not at all.
Who’s your family fuse-lighter? Do they drive you nuts? Most likely they do, but I suggest that you try to recognize how beneficial they actually are.